After making so many wrong choices in my life for reasons ranging from lack of information, carelessness, misinformation and a general ignorance of the consequences of certain choices, I have decided to raise my voice against the lack of sexual education.
I am fed up with this cycle. I come from a family of 6 girls and I have many younger siblings and just the thought of me standing by and letting them make these same errors and suffer the unwarranted pain I did tear me to my core.
Teens and Pre-teens
At this impressionable age, it is prevalently seen that parents let the lack of courage/negligence make them ignore having a good sex talk with their kids.
Bad sources of information
One way or another every kid is going to learn about sex, form their own opinions and sooner or later in life practice the act. It is a huge part of our lives and one way or the other, the kid will get information about sex. But you may ask: What will be the quality or completeness of it?
Information could come from peers, potential partners, the internet, books, etc. But how sure are you that the information is right? Most of these sources have an agenda and it is risky to let your child’s sexual education be left to the wind.
Pre-teens need to know the real definition of cool. Which is not badly-behaved, exams-flunking, disrespectful dressing or promiscuity. The new cool that needs to be upheld is respectful, well-kempt, chaste, studious, bold, compassionate….
What we expose kids to
Some TV shows, internet websites, books are really not what a kid who needs to make better sexual decisions should be exposed to.
Parents have a role to play in sexual education and it is hard to comprehend how/why such a vital role is neglected to such a large scale.
Especially in Africa, where I grew up, it seems kind of bad to talk about sex, but what is the reasoning behind that?
Sooner or later the kid will learn it all…. so better make it sooner and right.